i am not trying to be dismissive
but dark skinned women are not inherently unloveable
so i’m not going to engage in conversations lamenting the fact that there are men that don’t want us
when there are so many men that do
you’re not going to be everyone’s cup of tea
but that can’t steal your joy
this world is hard
and you can internalize the fact that there are men that reiterate the hatred that society has of dark skinned women
you could just do your best to surround yourself with people who aren’t like that
you can’t change people
but you can change the people who you allow to make space in your life
and i just don’t make space for thoughts about people who don’t value me
when there are so many who do
I find this hard to believe when the media and society is constantly bombarding dark skin women with why they’re undesirable and how underrepresented we are in society, the media, etc.
Like…it’s easy enough to say “surround yourself with people who love darkskin women” or whatever, but some of us don’t have the luxury of just shrugging off years and possibly decades of being derided and bullied for our skin color.
And let’s not pretend that this rings of the same argument white folks have when they say “well if you’re unhappy then make your own!” when POC talk about representation.
You say you’re not trying to be dismissive of the issue, but then that’s exactly how you come off.
You are surrounded by people who love you and the skin you’re in. Great. Good. I’m glad. But some of us do not have that in our lives and the fact that we have to work twice as hard to get half as much acceptance or love from society and the people in our lives is not something so easily dismissed with the casual “C’est la vie” attitude.
I wish it was that simple. I really do.
When someone has found love its easier for them to dismiss the fact that there are persons out here struggling to find love. The fact that shes trying to pass off this hatred for dark skin as something we can fix ourselves makes me sad.. It goes further than just a man loving woman Its also not loving yourself, and finding it hard to be loved. You were conditioned to feel like shit cause your dark. This is not your fault. Don’t let anyone tell you its your fault and the solution to your pain is as simple as what OP is saying.
Nissi isn’t trying to pass SHIT off. She said dark skinned women aren’t inherently, innately unloveable which is TRUE. Nor is she saying C’est la vie. Nor is she SHRUGGING off the burden of a dark skinned woman. She’s saying that she is an example of love being found and she does her best to control her environmental settings so that she doesn’t have to feel that pain. Now everyone may not have the emotional capacity or availability to do so, but that is HER experience. As a fellow dark skinned woman who is in a relationship, I agree with her and think nothing she said is dismissive. Is it hard out here for us chocolate sistas? FUCK YES. But you can take what is handed to you and wallow in it or you can present your best self and live life with what you’ve been given.
Honestly, I am a little disappointed that people are coming for youngblackandvegan like this. I think what she posted was very intentional, and for me, very fucking obvious. Sometimes people like to start shit for no reason on here - yall be angry early in the AM, gangbangin at the breakfast table, eating oatmeal and frosted flakes and shit. Not everything is a hill to die on, not every opinion needs to get shot down out of the sky. Don’t tell her what the fuck YOU merely THINK she is saying. That is so rude and petty. Don’t get sent for.
White Officer Kills Innocent Black Girl; Jury Told To Disregard Ferguson
DETROIT (AP) — A prosecutor has told jurors that a Detroit police officer flunked his training when he fatally shot a 7-year-old girl during a raid in 2010.
Joseph Weekley is on trial a second time for the death of Aiyana Stanley-Jones, who was sleeping on a couch during a police search for a murder suspect. A jury couldn’t reach a verdict last year on a charge of involuntary manslaughter.
Weekley says his gun went off when Aiyana’s grandmother grabbed it. Mertilla Jones denies it.
There’s no dispute that Aiyana’s death wasn’t intentional. But prosecutor Rob Moran told jurors Thursday that Weekley shouldn’t have had his finger on the trigger when he and officers stormed the home.
Defense attorney Steve Fishman says Aiyana’s death was an accident — not a crime.
No but forreal
If we have a black human torch, I want a black invisible woman too
Niggros are always begging white people to make white characters black instead of getting off their ass and making black novels, black comics, and black stories with black characters themselves
This just goes…